Agreed, agreed, agreed. I think fandom in general has this tendency to equate "realism" to "everything goes wrong and people are jerks." Silly.
Sometimes I feel like OTP does (and should) preclude characters being happy with other people. Mostly because I tend to fall massively in love with someone, and even when it won't work, I have trouble seeing anyone else as anything better than "settling" until I do the long slow work of getting over the OTP person. Because in my head I still have the "no, but this is the only one I want!" thing going. But I do want characters, if an OTP won't work, to be happy anyway, which means doing that long slow work. Or not doing it and acknowledging that you'll have this hole but it doesn't define your life and then working around it and filling your life with other kinds of important relationships. (This is my read on Charles Xavier post Erik Lehnsherr.)
But OTP doesn't excuse cheating. Really really doesn't.
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Sometimes I feel like OTP does (and should) preclude characters being happy with other people. Mostly because I tend to fall massively in love with someone, and even when it won't work, I have trouble seeing anyone else as anything better than "settling" until I do the long slow work of getting over the OTP person. Because in my head I still have the "no, but this is the only one I want!" thing going. But I do want characters, if an OTP won't work, to be happy anyway, which means doing that long slow work. Or not doing it and acknowledging that you'll have this hole but it doesn't define your life and then working around it and filling your life with other kinds of important relationships. (This is my read on Charles Xavier post Erik Lehnsherr.)
But OTP doesn't excuse cheating. Really really doesn't.